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Where to Meet Women (News Flash: Not in Bars)

Libraries are great places to meet women, so learn to love reading. Libraries are great places to meet women, so learn to love reading.

If you’re a single guy, most likely you are looking to meet women. If you’re not having any luck, it’s quite possible you’re looking in all the wrong places. Whether you are a young guy on the prowl, interested only in casual hook-ups, or an older man ready to settle down with The One, certain places are better suited for meeting women. And certain places are not.


David Grazian, PhD, author of On the Make: The Hustle of Urban Nightlife, states that “Men are possessed by the myth of the pickup.” He adds that most men think clubs and bars are “teeming with anonymous females who are dying to have sex with any guy who is confident enough to talk to them.” The truth of the matter is that less than 6% of women admit to having had sex with their partners within 2 days of meeting them, and less than 20% of adults report that they first met their most recent sexual partner in a bar. What does this mean for you barflies? It’s time to expand your social horizons.

Volunteer Groups

One of the best ways to meet women is volunteering for a good cause. Not only are the majority of volunteers women, but it’s a fantastic opportunity to show off your selfless and generous personality. Check out volunteerism.meetup.com. Find volunteer groups in or near your city, select groups with members who share your interests, and see who has signed up for which projects. It’s a worthy pursuit, and gives you the chance to meet the kind of woman you’d be proud to take home to meet Mom.

The Gym

Yep, it’s time to get off your La-Z-Boy and join a gym. Already a member? Great! Now it’s time to actually go. Gyms are a good place to meet single women, but you have to play it cool. Don’t let her catch you ogling her tight figure as she does her squats. This will only freak her out. When a pretty girl comes in, give her a friendly smile. Try to get the treadmill next to hers and make a casual comment about something from the news, or a recent local event. As you’re leaving, tell her your name and ask for hers. Simply say it was nice meeting her, and make your exit. The next time you can greet her by name and engage in a bit more conversation. Hopefully after a few visits like this she’ll agree to a date.

Cooking Class

No – don’t skip this one! Cooking classes give you access to a number of women, as well as no-brainer conversation starters. “That smells great, what are you using for your sauce?” Even if you’re a complete failure in the kitchen, don’t worry. You can use it to your advantage by asking for advice or help at your station. Small, intimate group classes are great ways to make fast friends. You’re all learning something together and will share a lot of laughs. Once you’ve gained a bit of skill, you can invite one of your classmates to your place so you can practice your newfound talents.


The reason bookstores and libraries are good places to meet women is because it gives you a way to break the ice. Like with cooking classes, you’ve already demonstrated you have a similar interest – in this case, reading. If you see a woman reading by herself, approach her and ask if she has any good suggestions. Tell her you’ve finished reading all the books by your favorite author and are looking for another. The next time you see the same woman, you can tell her how much you enjoyed the book she recommended. You’ve got an immediate opening for further conversations based on a mutual topic of interest.

Amusement Parks

Six Flags is not just for kids. Lots of single adults go to amusement parks looking for a day of fun. Plan a trip with your buddies, and keep your eyes open for groups of women. Chances are many of them are single as well. Long lines make great places to start chatting. Who wants to wait for an hour in silence? The friendly atmosphere of the park is conducive to casual conversation, and the fact that you’re with your pals makes you non-threatening. Take a chance and win a teddy bear for one of the girls. It may just win you her heart.

If you stick to the bar/club scene, you’re eventually going to get discouraged by the lack of positive response. Most women are there to have a good time with their girlfriends, not to be hit on. Improve your chances by widening out in your circle of friends, try different social situations, and be on the lookout for opportunities wherever you go. Women are out there; you just have to know where to look.

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