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What Sex Really Does For You

Guys get what they want, and then wonder why they’re not happy about it! Guys get what they want, and then wonder why they’re not happy about it!

A lot of guys, no matter their chronological age, never make it out of their teenaged years, at least not when it comes to their attitudes about women, sex, dating and marriage.

Most girls will agree that guys retain the same motivations and desires that they first discover when they hit puberty…a biologically-driven desire for sex, stimulated by visuals, leading to an obsessive search for casual sex with no intentional connection between sex, friendship and love.

There are exceptions to every rule, but if a guy between the ages of 13 and 60 is heterosexual, you can bet that when he sees a woman, he automatically scans the woman to see if she is sexually attractive. He thinks with his little head, not with his big head.

Indeed, many guys, including lots of famous golfers, football quarterbacks, politicians, businessmen and actors, are enslaved by the physical looks and assumed sexual pleasure potential of a woman that meets their criteria for attractiveness.

As we’ve seen from media reports about Tiger Woods, Mel Gibson, Jesse James, Brett Favre, former presidential candidate John Edwards, Bill Clinton, corporate executives, fundamentalist preachers, senators and way too many others, if a woman has what appears to be a sexy body, and is potentially willing to provide a sexual experience, many a man will risk his marriage, his job, his reputation, his money, 18 years of child support, and sometimes his very life in order to obtain that woman sexually.

You’re probably noticing that I am emphasizing how men are willing to risk all, just for a sexual experience. I am referring to a stark situation in which a man is looking only for a sexual experience, something that lasts at best a few hours.

In some cases the man must dose himself with Viagra to keep the game going, and afterwards he finds himself naked in bed with another human about whom he knows virtually nothing other than how she engages in sexual acts.

It is then when the shallowness and unsatisfactory aspect of random sexual encounters first introduces itself to men. They lie there in the dark, having just fulfilled at least a few of the juvenile fantasies that magazines like Playboy, Penthouse and Men’s Journal implanted in their minds, wondering why they don’t feel anything more than temporary physical satisfaction, why they’re naked with a stranger.

Pretty soon, they notice this kind of sex is about as satisfying as eating a meal. It’s good while it lasts, but it doesn’t last long enough. Pretty soon, you’re hungry again…back on the hunt for fresh game.

If men were honest with themselves, and self-aware, they’d realize that this type of sexual desire is a trap, like having a leash around your neck and being led around by it.

Always prodded by desire, seeking the next orgasm, scrutinizing every woman’s body to see if it kindles desire or revulsion, getting involved with dangerous women or compromising situations to obtain sex, the man becomes a slave.

And yeah guys, it’s true- there are plenty of women who are also controlled by a desire for random sex. Like you, they look for hot bodies and random, casual encounters… encounters that leave them wondering if sex can be something more than a sweaty nude exercise.

 

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The good news is that men and women can get beyond their primitive lusts and hormonal desires to experience a deeper kind of attraction, sex that is better described as making love, and more safety, ethics and kindness in how physical pleasure is managed and contextualized.

Stay tuned in to Rosebudmag.com for more articles about how to create higher quality relationships. In the interim, reflect on your sexual history and what sex really does in your life. It’s too important to be brainless about.

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